What Are The Qualities To Look For In A Partner

Every individual have categories of qualities he/she wants in a life partner. Here are some helpful tips on qualities to look for in a partner;

Maturity 

Being “grown up” isn’t merely about a boyfriend who always hold the door for you or a girlfriend who applies all sorts of makeup to look perfect. These qualities are nice, but to truly grow up means making an active effort to recognize and resolve negative influences from our past. An ideal partner is thus willing to reflect on his/her history and is interested in understanding how old events inform current behaviors.

When people mature emotionally, they are less likely to repeat past relationship mistakes  onto their current relationships. They develop a strong sense of independence and confidence. As they evolve within themselves, they are less likely to look for someone to compensate for shortcomings and weaknesses or to complete their incompleteness. Instead, they’re looking for someone to share life with as equals and to appreciate independently of themselves. Having broken ties to old relationships, this person is much more available to a romantic partner. Naturally, becoming emotionally mature ourselves helps to dramatically improves our chances of achieving a solid and rewarding relationship.

 Openness 

The ideal partner is open, undefended and willing to be vulnerable. No human being is perfect, so finding someone who is approachable and receptive to feedback can be a huge asset to a lasting union. When someone is free-thinking and open-minded, it enables them to be forthright in expressing feelings, thoughts, dreams and desires, which allows you to truly know them. Their openness is also an indication of their interest in personal development. Like perfect people, perfect unions do not exist, so finding someone with whom you can talk to about everything and anything. Conversely, being willing to accept feedback from our partners and looking for that kernel of truth in what they say allows us to develop ourselves in a similar manner.

 Honesty & Integrity

The ideal partner realizes the importance of honesty in a close relationship. Honesty builds trust between people. Dishonesty confuses the other person, betraying their vulnerability and shattering their sense of reality. Nothing has a more destructive impact on a close relationship between two people than dishonesty and deception. Even in painful situations such as infidelity, the blatant deception involved is often equally, if not more, hurtful than the unfaithful act itself. This goes for all levels of communication, both verbal and nonverbal. Being open and honest in our most intimate relationships means really knowing ourselves and our intentions. Although this can prove difficult, it is an effort worth striving for.

Respect & Independence 

Ideal partners value each others’ interests separate from their own. Being with another person doesn't mean you should forget who you are. Be sensitive to each other’s wants, desires and feelings, and supportive of each other's overall goal in life and place them on an equal basis with your own. Ideal partners treat each other with respect and sensitivity. They do not try to control each other with threatening or manipulative behavior. Valuing and respecting our partners’ sovereign minds and not trying to change them allows us to really know them.

 Understanding  

The ideal partner perceives their mate on both an intellectual, observational level and an emotional, intuitive level. This person is able to understand  his or her partner. When two people in a relationship understand each other, they become aware of the commonalities that exist between them and also recognize and appreciate the differences. When both partners are understanding, that is, capable of communicating with feeling and with respect for the other person’s wants, attitudes and values, each partner feels understood and appreciated.

Affection

The ideal partner is easily affectionate and responsive on many levels: physically, emotionally and verbally. He or she is personal, acknowledging and outwardly demonstrative of feelings of warmth and tenderness. Being open to both giving and receiving affection adds more balance to our lives.

Sense of Humor

The ideal partner has a sense of humor. A sense of humor can be a lifesaver in a relationship. The ability to laugh at one’s self allows a person to maintain a proper perspective when dealing with sensitive issues that arise within the relationship. Couples who are playful and teasing often defuse potentially volatile situations with their humor. A good sense of humor definitely eases the tense moments in a relationship. Being able to laugh at ourselves makes life much easier. Plus, it is one of life’s greatest joys to be able to laugh with someone close to us.

Ambitious and Intelligent 

An ideal partner should have a goal and be intelligent. He/She should be an independent decision maker, and have a strong passion of achieving or obtaining success. Ambition is the motivator to a satisfying life. It is important to be with someone who is always working toward a better and happier life together with you.

Positive Attitude 

Every individual have his/her own attitude be it good or bad and that is a normal aspect of life. But a positive attitude is one that everyone should strive to have. It helps to cope more easily with daily affairs of life. It enables self inspiration and helps one to look for solution instead of dwelling on problems. It helps you to have a forgiving spirit, and makes you believe in yourself and abilities.